💬 Have you ever been “too nice” at your own expense? What’s ONE thing you wish you could say “no” to today? Let’s talk about it - your story might help someone else feel seen. ❤👇 👉 If this hit home, like the video and subscribe for more content like this. #PeoplePleasing #HealingTogether Drop this in the comments if it speaks to you: “I am healing.” 🔔 Subscribe for more content that speaks to your soul. #PeoplePleasing #GaborMate #EmotionalHealing #InnerChild #MentalHealth #GutFeeling #SpiritualHealing #SetBoundaries #TraumaRecovery
I wish my “no” was respected when I was forced to be my parent’s boxing object and I learned to be “nice” about it and call it ‘play’ or ‘roughhousing’ instead of abuse. 🙏🏼🌺 Good subject. From my POV, being “too nice” is nothing more than taught self-abandonment.
I think it's important to remember we learned to please others in order to get what we needed as little kids: attention, approval, maybe something to eat. It was a really smart decision we made!! And now we can decide we want to speak up for ourselves, say 'no', set limits with others. And to please ourselves so we can live life in a way that's meaningful to us. And I'm not meaning that we only take into account our feelings and needs, or become unkind and cruel (even tho we may go thru a phase where we are very angry). It's about having empathy for and respecting and valuing ourselves. And others. ❤
I totally agree I think the face of a lot of anger is them not accepting your change and boundaries so you need to keep on saying the same that eventually irritates you repeating yourself.
@annohalloran6020 How is it going for you? Do you manage to not please strangers or other people who you know after pleasing your mom while you grew up? That self taught pleasing due to parents can be a challenge to change in the outside world as well.
When toxic people want to change you into a servant but make it look as if your nature and trauma force you into it, not their timing and horror. But sure ,blame it on what the victims look like and would say, because it sounds so much better to call it people pleasing.
I am trying to be healed . It's difficult to change but if you are determined and understand that it'll lead you to an optimistic journey so it's not tiring.
As a recovering People Pleaser, I have learned that this coerced behavior by guilt tripping family manipulators, erodes self- love to self-hate, erodes Identity to a distortion, replaces trust with fear of rejection. It leads to self denial and detachment for self preservation. It is no way to live.
I am healing. I wish I could say no when someone calls about help with a cat. I know that if I say no, the cat will pay the price, not the person. I could say no easily if I knew the animal would not suffer.
I am healing through meditating mindfully by feeling my edges in order to keep healing outdoors.. Past 15 years slow, steady progress to counteract 2nd generation of Familial Spastic Paraparesis.. Thanks, Gabor for teaching me to stay true to my gut authenticity. Love you guys for your support at age 64. 💖👩🦼🦋💞😔
I agree. Yes it is true that we developed in one are but we undeveloped in another area very wisely knowledgeable information points for spiritual developing human beings innerself truth. Thank you for your kind share greatly appreciated God bless you.
great topic - so, did you know that everyone should be sleeping 7-8-9 hours every night.....? Boundries. Not everything is important always! 4 sets of priorities: 1/ important + cannnot wait , 2/ important and can wait, 3/ cannot wait but not important, 4/ not important and can wait.... Sleep is important! Regular excercize eg. walking is importatnt. Getting enough light especially in the morning hours is also very imporant. Eating healthy meals at regular times during the day (breakfast, lunch, dinner) also important. .... Yet work, narcissists, want us to ignore these basic important things in life to serve them.
Yes, all true, but at the same time for a lot of the time in work you have to 'bite your tongue'...you have to keep the peace, particularly if your boss is the sort of person who will be vindictive if you step out of line...I know that you can say that that sort of work situation should not be tolerated but that is not a very easy decision for someone who's entire livelihood depends on keeping that job...leaving is not always an option...people pleasing is not a nice trait of our character but it is often not very practical to be otherwise...
💬 Have you ever been “too nice” at your own expense?
What’s ONE thing you wish you could say “no” to today?
Let’s talk about it - your story might help someone else feel seen. ❤👇
👉 If this hit home, like the video and subscribe for more content like this.
#PeoplePleasing #HealingTogether
Drop this in the comments if it speaks to you: “I am healing.”
🔔 Subscribe for more content that speaks to your soul.
#PeoplePleasing #GaborMate #EmotionalHealing #InnerChild #MentalHealth #GutFeeling #SpiritualHealing #SetBoundaries #TraumaRecovery
When we are a “pleaser” we lack embodiment of the authentic self
I wish my “no” was respected when I was forced to be my parent’s boxing object and I learned to be “nice” about it and call it ‘play’ or ‘roughhousing’ instead of abuse.
🙏🏼🌺 Good subject.
From my POV, being “too nice” is nothing more than taught self-abandonment.
By people pleasing, I've tried healing from my childhood trauma of being unwanted and unloved in multiple ways. Dark disturbing ways !
I think it's important to remember we learned to please others in order to get what we needed as little kids: attention, approval, maybe something to eat. It was a really smart decision we made!!
And now we can decide we want to speak up for ourselves, say 'no', set limits with others. And to please ourselves so we can live life in a way that's meaningful to us.
And I'm not meaning that we only take into account our feelings and needs, or become unkind and cruel (even tho we may go thru a phase where we are very angry). It's about having empathy for and respecting and valuing ourselves. And others. ❤
I totally agree I think the face of a lot of anger is them not accepting your change and boundaries so you need to keep on saying the same that eventually irritates you repeating yourself.
Trying to please a mother who never loved me. Being gaslighted by siblings she preferred so I’ve gone NO CONTACT.
@annohalloran6020 How is it going for you? Do you manage to not please strangers or other people who you know after pleasing your mom while you grew up? That self taught pleasing due to parents can be a challenge to change in the outside world as well.
I AM HEALING! 💞
When toxic people want to change you into a servant but make it look as if your nature and trauma force you into it, not their timing and horror. But sure ,blame it on what the victims look like and would say, because it sounds so much better to call it people pleasing.
I am healing
I am trying to be healed . It's difficult to change but if you are determined and understand that it'll lead you to an optimistic journey so it's not tiring.
As a recovering People Pleaser, I have learned that this coerced behavior by guilt tripping family manipulators, erodes self- love to self-hate, erodes Identity to a distortion, replaces trust with fear of rejection. It leads to self denial and detachment for self preservation. It is no way to live.
I am healing.
I AM HEALING.
I am healing ✨️
I AM HEALING
I'm so glad to hear this. Keep going, and may your journey be filled with love and strength!
Thank you so much...
I am healing. I wish I could say no when someone calls about help with a cat. I know that if I say no, the cat will pay the price, not the person. I could say no easily if I knew the animal would not suffer.
I am healing🙏🏻💫
I am healing ❤
I’m healing
I AM HEALING❤🙏💚
I AM healing
I am healing😢
👽4,5 BILLION YEARS ( incarnational cycle !!!! )
I am healing through meditating mindfully by feeling my edges in order to keep healing outdoors.. Past 15 years slow, steady progress to counteract 2nd generation of Familial Spastic Paraparesis..
Thanks, Gabor for teaching me to stay true to my gut authenticity.
Love you guys for your support at age 64. 💖👩🦼🦋💞😔
I agree.
Yes it is true that we developed in one are but we undeveloped in another area very wisely knowledgeable information points for spiritual developing human beings innerself truth.
Thank you for your kind share greatly appreciated God bless you.
am healing!
I am healing ❤. I’m
💟I. AM Healing 💟
So glad to hear that!
great topic - so, did you know that everyone should be sleeping 7-8-9 hours every night.....? Boundries. Not everything is important always! 4 sets of priorities: 1/ important + cannnot wait , 2/ important and can wait, 3/ cannot wait but not important, 4/ not important and can wait.... Sleep is important! Regular excercize eg. walking is importatnt. Getting enough light especially in the morning hours is also very imporant. Eating healthy meals at regular times during the day (breakfast, lunch, dinner) also important. .... Yet work, narcissists, want us to ignore these basic important things in life to serve them.
Yes, all true, but at the same time for a lot of the time in work you have to 'bite your tongue'...you have to keep the peace, particularly if your boss is the sort of person who will be vindictive if you step out of line...I know that you can say that that sort of work situation should not be tolerated but that is not a very easy decision for someone who's entire livelihood depends on keeping that job...leaving is not always an option...people pleasing is not a nice trait of our character but it is often not very practical to be otherwise...
so where will I find healing?
God this guy mate is talking with has such a big ego, feeling the need to take so much space unnecessarily and overexplain
Wtf is it with these useless video images defiling? So annoying
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Healing is a beautiful thing.
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